A story of a Boy

It was 7 p.m., just 30 minutes short of everyone breaking fast. Just like everyone else, we were seated at our tables with our plates filled with food, patiently waiting. This unusually quiet 7 year old boy who was two seats away asked for permission to use the washroom with his friend and so we let him.

5 minutes after, the two boys came back panting and they were so eager to tell me of their misadventures. I listened intently and observed that the boy was missing his two front teeth. He was so cute when he laughed.

However, beneath all the laughter, I wondered how it must be like for him back at the children’s home. He has been there for the past 3 years and I’m pretty sure his teeth-dropping experience happened in the home. 

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The Art of Doing Nothing

For a girl who can’t wait to retire early so she can be a tai tai and do nothing all day, I don’t do very well with an empty schedule. I come up with to-do lists when I have free time so that it would be a productive day, or so I hope. I put literally EVERYTHING on my to-do list, even relaxing things.. like putting on a facial mask! Lol. Unfortunately, when I only cross out half of what I’m supposed to do, I feel like I have failed and I bring these to-do items forward to the next day and the cycle continues.

Now, before you judge me.. I do this because I have zero discipline in life. Unlike my husband or any other normal human being, I do not have a single routine I keep in life except going to work and church. My shower time is never consistent, my order of getting ready is never the same nor my choices in life. One day I can be waking up at 6.30 am and the next day at 7.00 am. I hate routines.Read More »

10 milestones in 2016

I usually do this every year end to reflect how the year has been. Clearly, this is wayy past December and we are now in February March. Talk about being efficient, eh? To be fair, January was a crazy tough month which I will leave it for another time but I’m going to stick with this just because.

#1 – We got married!

2016 was all about wedding planning and getting hitched. From managing our parents’ expectations to finding a venue that fits to finding good people to work with, man..it was tough work. Planning a wedding was really difficult for us, especially with so many limitations but in the end, it was really about learning about how to work together as a couple. It was also a testing time for our closest friends who helped us out because there were just sooo much to do, but we’re glad that together with Jesus, it all came together in the end. Now, we get to wake up to each other everyday, snoozing our life away.. Hahaha…Read More »

The Wedding Planning Journey

I’ve been meaning to write this for the longest time but you know, there are more important things in life like..wedding planning. 😛 We’re half way there and it’s little more to crunch time now. Kinda regret that we chill so much last year and only started preparations this year. Procastination habit dies hard, haha. Oh wells, but still do-able! 🙂

Gotta admit it was pretty stressful in the beginning, but much better in the recent month. If a bride-to-be says that there are no stress moments throughout their wedding planning journey, they are lying. Unless they hire a wedding planner. Or maybe they are just men living in female bodies. ANYWAY, that’s not the point.

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10 milestones in 2015

Happy Belated (veryyy belated!) New Year, guys!

Time..has..gotta..slowwwwww…down. Like seriously. Or maybe 2015 was pretty darn awesome that my blog couldn’t keep up with the pace of my lifestyle! ☀✌ The moment I’m back home, I unpack, stay home for a week or two and off I go again!

2015 was really a year of awesome-ness filled with great people in it! If there’s one word to describe the year, it would be a year of exploration. (2014 : Breakthrough, 2013 : Learning) I was pushed out of my comfort zone, trying new things, so many “first’s”, epic new experiences and I’m glad things happened the way it did! A lot to be thankful for 🙂

#1 – WE GOT ENGAGED! ❤ ❤ 

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This gotta be the highlight of the year (life)! It was our 3rd year anniversary and Marc decided that it’s time to get someone to do his laundry for life. He got down on one knee on the beach, with the sunset as our backdrop. And now, we are going to get married! Yay!

We don’t know how our future is going to be but we know that it will be helluva of a ride! We talked about how we will rush in the mornings because we will be both late for work (ugh, I’ll have a longer travel time when I get married), how we say we will make each other breakfast but in reality, we will just have instant coffee and bread, how we would really like to watch football together but I’ll just leave him and do my own thing. Or how we are gonna play futsal as a family and do fun things together! It’s gonna be funny and a lot of hard work!

For now, it’s the wedding planning and I don’t know who creates this culture of having big weddings, because it ain’t fun and it uses a lot of money! Even for small weddings, there are so many details to be taken care of.

Why can’t I sign the papers and just fly off to our honeymoon? Haha.

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Is Malaysia STILL worth fighting for?

Today is my nation’s 58th year of independence. I can’t help but to think how so much have changed in the recent years.

My Prime Minister is accused of having RM2.6 billion of public funds transferred to his personal account, our government owned investment company (1MDB) is unable to account to us where the crap is our tax money of RM42 billion, 6% of GST have just been implemented in March this year and our currency has dropped from USD1=RM2.9 to USD1=RM4.2 in just a year. These are the most recent news that have been flooding our FB timeline and media.

More than that, gone were the days where we could run around in our neighbourhood without fearing of getting kidnapped, when crime rates weren’t as bad, when we could buy 1 week of groceries with RM100 or when the education system was way better back then.

All these saddens me.

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Second Chances

The thing about second chances is that it either comes one too many times OR it doesn’t come at all, which then makes second chances less valuable than it is. I am going to generalise this, but you get what I mean. Even when it’s related to health, we tend to take it for granted after some time from our recovery.

I remember telling myself that I need to get enough rest, eat right and exercise after my episodes of “making-the-hospital-my-second-home”. I’m definitely living better – not too much spicy, eating regularly, sleep more than 6 hours, don’t work too late – but I know I can do better than this. TODAY is one of those days.

If only I was more aware of what time I sleep each day, I will not be stuck here on medical leave and wasted my entire weekend off to rest. I spent so much of time in bed trying to recover; what a waste of time! All the things I could have done with it. -___-

Anyway, that’s not the worst. The HORROR when my doctor said…
No more durians”

WHAT! ARE YOU KIDDING ME OR WHAT!
I hardly had any durians the past week and I have to stop eating them? Story of my life or what.

It’s amazing how I can divert from one topic to another unrelated one. Haha. Think I need to just vent out my frustrations.

Confessions of being a Tanned Girl in Malaysia

Since young, I was told that being fair = beautiful.

“Don’t play in the playground during the afternoon. Don’t play as much outdoor sports. Don’t stay under the sun for so long. Get an umbrella when you are walking under the sun. Put tons of sunblock and don’t go suntanning in the beach. Drink soya milk so that your skin will be fair and smooth. Use this whitening cream. Use that moisturiser – it has whitening elements! No boys will like you if you are so dark!!! -__-“

Believe it or not, the above is what the older folks have been telling me since young! Because I am stubborn like that, I have never really put much thought on my skin tone nor make a conscious effort to be fairer. After all, I’m already considered dark/tanned as a Chinese. So much so, people always ask if I’m a Malay or with mixed parentage.

“Kamu Cina ke Melayu?” (Are you a Malay or Chinese?)

When I was young, I hated these kinda questions. Does it really matter if I’m a Malay or a Chinese? Does it make me less of a Malaysian? I felt like an outcast because I wasn’t like any of my cousins or friends. Felt like I was neither here nor there.

Fast forward to today, I’ve gotten comfortable with my own skin colour regardless what people say. It’s a good thing that I’m happy the way I am now – physically wise – and I’m not complaining. Ok fine, tummy abs will look better on me than my seemingly-pregnant-looking-belly. 😀 ANYWAY… In fact, being tanned is an advantage now – people can’t tell what race I am, so they won’t be racist and be nice to me!

So, my point is.. I’ve had enough of the RIDICULOUS remarks and comments when I came back from a 3 weeks beach vacation in the Philippines last year. The aunties whom I’m not really close to and other random people really don’t know how to watch what they say . The most recent one came about 2 weeks ago when I returned from Philippines (I LOVE THIS PLACEE!).

“Wow, why you so dark already? Didn’t you put sunblock?”
“Oh wow, you are so freaking dark – looking like an indian now!!!”
“WHY OH WHY did you do this to yourself? You paid money to get yourself to be like this?”
“Why can’t you go for holidays that wouldn’t make you look so dark?”
You look so ugly now!” 
“It’s a good thing you have a boyfriend now or else nobody wants you”
“Oh hi, you are so tanned now, hmmm.. *gives the judgmental stare” 

Excuse me.
Do you even know what you are talking about ah? How does getting tanned equates to being an Indian?  -_______- So racist somemore. These people deserves a slap la really.

I’m loving my tanned skin, thank you very much.
It’s a shame that the tan will disappear in few weeks time. 😦

Even after I explained myself, I still get crap for allowing myself to be 3 shades darker. LOL. I wonder why I bother.

It’s just that it’s very sad to see these “older wiser ones” imparting these kind of values to the younger generation with thoughts like these. Especially to the younger girls – that you need to BE or LOOK a certain way to be accepted. Don’t do this, don’t do that. Can you believe it that my aunt once told me that I should keep my hair long because a girl should have long hair? -___-

..and you wonder why the world is so messed up today.

Honestly, it’s so easy to allow what people say to affect your self-esteem. It allows you to wonder if you are actually okay, if you should change to fit into the mould of the society. If I actually allowed these words to affect me, I would have reconsider my travel plans or hang outs which then stops me from meeting awesome people and see the amazing world out there. See how FEAR can cripple someone? The fear of what other people think of you.

Come on girls. Don’t let the words of these people change who you are. You are the most beautiful version of yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Confidence is sexy, so listen to that voice inside of you and live it!

How to have a getaway in Kuantan for less than RM250

I knew March was going to be a challenging work month, so I tried to slot in a weekend getaway somewhere. Texted Giri and asked if she was free bring me around Kuantan since she’s working there.

Now, some of you may ask, “What’s there to do in Kuantan?! There’s nothing unless you go to Cherating!”
WRONG. But I don’t blame you because that’s what I thought too! Until I came to Kuantan.

Took a bus from Puduraya to Kuantan bus terminal and it took 3.5 hours. From there, took a RapidKL bus to the Rapid bus terminal for another 20 to 25 minutes. My hostel was pretty near to the bus terminal, approximately a 150m/ 5minutes walk.

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I stayed in Kuantan Backpackers – the only backpacker hostel in the town. The reviews in TripAdvisor mentioned that it’s pretty hidden, which is true. SPOT THE PLACE IN THE PICTURE! Haha..

It’s the small little sign in blue under “Merchant Trade”. I wouldn’t be able to find it if it wasn’t for the map given by Zamri, the new owner of the place.
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